Erik - Lilly Friend Project

Preliminary Questions

1. Where do you live?

New york city

2. Are you crazy?

Yes No

3. Do you want more friends?

internet friends in-person friends both

Open Questions

1. Why are you filling out this questionnaire?

I saw it on a street poster

2. How many "close friends" (by close friends I mean people that you see more than twice a month if they live in the tri-state area or if they are a long-distance friend that you speak with at least twice a month) do you have?

Probably like 9

3. It's Saturday morning! What time are you up and what do you want to do with the day?

I am up at like 11:30 am, i probably would do laundry then go play mtg at an lgs.

4. Do you like to go to any kind of cultural experiences? What kind and how often?

Not a ton, if friends are going then ill try most things.

5. How do you feel about Amy Winehouse?

Her music is good and her struggle with addiction is sad. Her struggles did help to make more people aware of certain societal issues and that is good.

6. "Uh oh! I'm experiencing a negative emotion"; what happens inside you? How do you deal with it?

I usually deal with it myself so i don’t have to bother anyone else

7. How do you feel about school and teachers?

School is important for the development of children but the education system is lacking. I am studying to be a teacher

8. What is the most meaningful way to spend time?

With close friends and loved ones

9. What is your favorite law (if you do not have a favorite, what is one that you think of positively)?

Laws against abuse

10. What app on your phone (other than essentials) is your most used app?

Not sure, maybe podcasts or music

11. What are you hoping to get from filling this out?

It seemed interesting

Multiple-Choice Questions

1. If you had to choose one word to describe yourself, which one would you choose:

Scary Sporty Baby Ginger Posh

2. The worst month is:

January March July November I don't think about this way

3. Do you live to eat or eat to live?

Eat to live Live to eat I'm really not sure It's complicated.... 🙁 I'm uncomfortable by this question and prefer not to answer

4. How do you feel about August: Osage County:

Love that movie! Hate that play! I thought it was a moving and interesting depiction of the American family Merryl Streep was great(doi!) and I am indifferent/feel somewhat positive about it Don't know what that is

5. How often do you speak about your love life with your friends?

A lot Not that often Once every other time I feel it out and need to make sure I don't talk about it too much Everytime I see my best friends

6. Your biggest fear about getting older is:

Becoming irrelevant Running out of time My body falling apart Becoming boring I'm not afraid of getting older

7. Dogs wearing clothes are:

Adorable and necessary for their comfort Humiliating for the dog Fine for practical reasons only (rain, cold) A symptom of social rot Depends entirely on the dog's attitude about it

8. People who don't tip well:

Probably just don't understand how service industry works Are fundamentally bad people Might be going through something financially Should be banned from restaurants I don't judge people's tipping habits

9. Distance in relationships:

Is always a sign something is wrong Can actually strengthen the bond between people Should be avoided at all costs Is necessary for maintaining mystery Means someone isn't trying hard enough

10. The best way to end a text conversation is:

Just stop responding when it feels natural Say 'okay talk soon!' or similar Send a thumbs up emoji You don't end them, they just fade There is no good way

11. The phrase "it is what it is" is:

Zen wisdom Giving up disguised as acceptance Sometimes true, sometimes lazy The most annoying phrase in English Perfect for ending awkward conversations

12. When someone consistently disappoints you, you:

Keep giving them chances because that's what loyalty means Gradually distance yourself while remaining cordial Have a direct conversation about expectations Cut them off immediately - life's too short Use it as an opportunity to examine your own expectations

13. How do you feel about answering all these questions:

Annoyed - this was way too long Intrigued - I enjoyed thinking about these things Resentful - some of these felt invasive Excited to discuss my answers with someone Neutral - just another survey

14. If we met in person, what would you want to talk about first:

Something completely unrelated to this questionnaire Why you asked such weird questions The answers we disagreed on most Whatever comes up naturally in conversation I'd rather just see what happens

Essay Question

Please describe a friend breakup you have gone through. If you haven't gone through a friend breakup, please explain why you think you have never gone through a friend breakup. Outline a major friendship in your life and explain why it is successful.

I personally have not had any friend breakups in the way that i think that this question is asking about because I generally like to avoid fights and confrontation but I have distanced myself from people in my life who were not good for me to be around for my own mental health. When i was in high school someone who i had been friends with for multiple years was revealed to have been doing things that I don’t want to talk about here but that deeply went against my personal moral compass so I stopped talking to them and interacting with them. I did this because their action’s were causing harm to multiple people myself included without their knowledge. They were also taking advantage of the fact that I wasn’t aware of what was happening to get my help in dealing with other people who had found out before I had. I don’t really have much more to say about the end of this friendship so now I’m going to talk about something more positive. A major friendship in my life is with my childhood best friend who to this day is still my best friend. We both go to different colleges now and don’t see each other very often but we maintain our friendship because we share most of the same hobbies and well and having a-lot of other friends in common. Also it is easy for us to just be near each other for extended periods of time while also decompressing from stress which makes it really easy to be friends with them.