Preliminary Questions
1. Where do you live?
Portland, OR but i just went to New York for the first time in a decade hence posters hence here (and moving to Vancouver, BC soon)
2. Are you crazy?
3. Do you want more friends?
Open Questions
1. Why are you filling out this questionnaire?
i was enthralled to find your poster in several locations (and in particular in a Greek restaurant in Astoria where i went to attempt to reconnect with my childhood), and i'm a city planner interested in place and social relationships, about to enter a graduate program in sociology to study, broadly *waves hands*, community formation and cohesion, the boundaries of a community, what about the built environment ACTUALLY helps/hinders community and friendship, warm and cool cultures (interpersonally speaking) and they relate to how we take care of each other politically and socially, and on and on...soooooo, i wanna see what's up around here
2. How many "close friends" (by close friends I mean people that you see more than twice a month if they live in the tri-state area or if they are a long-distance friend that you speak with at least twice a month) do you have?
i don't know but this question has been haunting me ever since i read it a few days ago because the number is small; my friends are hold to get a hold of and i am hard to self-motivate to try more
3. It's Saturday morning! What time are you up and what do you want to do with the day?
well, if i'm alone, trail run and cafe, or if my gf is in town, hopefully we are doing some outdoor activity (hike, climb) (where are my friends? they are weekday friends, nighttime friends)
4. Do you like to go to any kind of cultural experiences? What kind and how often?
yes, in the sense of experiencing other people's cultures (in the limited way that festivals and restaurants offer) and in the sense of consuming cultural products like movies and live music; not as often as i'd like
5. How do you feel about Amy Winehouse?
may she rest
6. "Uh oh! I'm experiencing a negative emotion"; what happens inside you? How do you deal with it?
stew in it silently
7. How do you feel about school and teachers?
i love school; i am going back to school because i love school even though many people have advised me against it and then what. teachers can supercharge your life or they can be mediocre or they can fail to teach you what actually happened and sometimes it is hard to look at who from your childhood became teachers but overall i appreciate and am so very grateful for teachers (traditionally speaking, here, but also, all types of teachers ofc)
8. What is the most meaningful way to spend time?
huge q, huge q...probably not sniveling around the internet, probably doing something that feels less important than it is, i.e., hanging out with your friends in their homes doing nothing, and/or what we call parea in Greek...i believe this is what actually makes us "happiest" in the long term
9. What is your favorite law (if you do not have a favorite, what is one that you think of positively)?
unfortunately my favorite law is only a twinkle in my eye and it's the law where we get rid of the mortgage interest deduction, which would cost the average homeowner $500 a year and solve homelessness, so
10. What app on your phone (other than essentials) is your most used app?
i try to be so bad at the phone but, Podcasts
11. What are you hoping to get from filling this out?
i really wanna see how people are thinking about all this (per above), especially rooted in New York (i presume), which is a very different place than Portland, socially, in a way i've become obsessed with of late...it doesn't quite fit so cleanly into my warm/cool culture dichotomy but there is a stark difference in openness and directness that i believe influences friendship and belonging
Multiple-Choice Questions
1. If you had to choose one word to describe yourself, which one would you choose:
2. The worst month is:
3. Do you live to eat or eat to live?
4. How do you feel about August: Osage County:
5. How often do you speak about your love life with your friends?
6. Your biggest fear about getting older is:
7. Dogs wearing clothes are:
8. People who don't tip well:
9. Distance in relationships:
10. The best way to end a text conversation is:
11. The phrase "it is what it is" is:
12. When someone consistently disappoints you, you:
13. How do you feel about answering all these questions:
14. If we met in person, what would you want to talk about first:
Essay Question
Please describe a friend breakup you have gone through. If you haven't gone through a friend breakup, please explain why you think you have never gone through a friend breakup. Outline a major friendship in your life and explain why it is successful.
i haven't gone through a friend breakup due to some combination of a) i'm selective to begin with ("all my friends are the best," yes, but also, i don't have soooo many friendships close enough to warrant a dramatic, episodic breakdown) and b) i think living where i do has changed me for the worst in terms of being passive and indirect so whenever a friendship has started disappoint me in some way i never address it, just let it fade away slowly under the assumption that it's mutual, but sometimes it's not; it's due to the changing life circumstances of one party (usually the friend) that the other party (usually me) is unequipped or unmotivated to accommodate enough to maintain the bond as it was (which, of course, will always ebb and flow over the course of a life). i do have one friend who i feel i have unjustly faded away from that i want to apologize to. i think i am at word count