Erin Satterthwaite - Lilly Friend Project

Preliminary Questions

1. Where do you live?

park slope. bk

2. Are you crazy?

Yes No

3. Do you want more friends?

internet friends in-person friends both

Open Questions

1. Why are you filling out this questionnaire?

I am doing the podcast :)

2. How many "close friends" (by close friends I mean people that you see more than twice a month if they live in the tri-state area or if they are a long-distance friend that you speak with at least twice a month) do you have?

oooo kind of a lot .... I'm in a writing community tho I have a group chat of 7 women that do a lot of things then i have my college friends

3. It's Saturday morning! What time are you up and what do you want to do with the day?

reading, coffee, writing, gym... My bf makes a special breakfast like eggs or something and we call it "alec's diner" i'm kind of an indoor cat i will leave the house in the morning or afternoon if people invite me places like the beach or farmers market

4. Do you like to go to any kind of cultural experiences? What kind and how often?

I do love the movies :) hmmm once a month? but it varies then READINGS .... more than once a month

5. How do you feel about Amy Winehouse?

Love herrrr

6. "Uh oh! I'm experiencing a negative emotion"; what happens inside you? How do you deal with it?

I have OCD so i am learning to sit through discomfort but im a cry baby so i'd probs cry and then face whatever

7. How do you feel about school and teachers?

im a teacher hahahaha so positive....

8. What is the most meaningful way to spend time?

writing and reading cooking!

9. What is your favorite law (if you do not have a favorite, what is one that you think of positively)?

never given this much thought each one has it's pitfall doesn't it ... i guess no murder that seems to be a good biblical one

10. What app on your phone (other than essentials) is your most used app?

depop (HELP) and twitter

11. What are you hoping to get from filling this out?

it's fun and im having fun

Multiple-Choice Questions

1. If you had to choose one word to describe yourself, which one would you choose:

Scary Sporty Baby Ginger Posh

2. The worst month is:

January March July November I don't think about this way

3. Do you live to eat or eat to live?

Eat to live Live to eat I'm really not sure It's complicated.... 🙁 I'm uncomfortable by this question and prefer not to answer

4. How do you feel about August: Osage County:

Love that movie! Hate that play! I thought it was a moving and interesting depiction of the American family Merryl Streep was great(doi!) and I am indifferent/feel somewhat positive about it Don't know what that is

5. How often do you speak about your love life with your friends?

A lot Not that often Once every other time I feel it out and need to make sure I don't talk about it too much Everytime I see my best friends

6. Your biggest fear about getting older is:

Becoming irrelevant Running out of time My body falling apart Becoming boring I'm not afraid of getting older

7. Dogs wearing clothes are:

Adorable and necessary for their comfort Humiliating for the dog Fine for practical reasons only (rain, cold) A symptom of social rot Depends entirely on the dog's attitude about it

8. People who don't tip well:

Probably just don't understand how service industry works Are fundamentally bad people Might be going through something financially Should be banned from restaurants I don't judge people's tipping habits

9. Distance in relationships:

Is always a sign something is wrong Can actually strengthen the bond between people Should be avoided at all costs Is necessary for maintaining mystery Means someone isn't trying hard enough

10. The best way to end a text conversation is:

Just stop responding when it feels natural Say 'okay talk soon!' or similar Send a thumbs up emoji You don't end them, they just fade There is no good way

11. The phrase "it is what it is" is:

Zen wisdom Giving up disguised as acceptance Sometimes true, sometimes lazy The most annoying phrase in English Perfect for ending awkward conversations

12. When someone consistently disappoints you, you:

Keep giving them chances because that's what loyalty means Gradually distance yourself while remaining cordial Have a direct conversation about expectations Cut them off immediately - life's too short Use it as an opportunity to examine your own expectations

13. How do you feel about answering all these questions:

Annoyed - this was way too long Intrigued - I enjoyed thinking about these things Resentful - some of these felt invasive Excited to discuss my answers with someone Neutral - just another survey

14. If we met in person, what would you want to talk about first:

Something completely unrelated to this questionnaire Why you asked such weird questions The answers we disagreed on most Whatever comes up naturally in conversation I'd rather just see what happens

Essay Question

Please describe a friend breakup you have gone through. If you haven't gone through a friend breakup, please explain why you think you have never gone through a friend breakup. Outline a major friendship in your life and explain why it is successful.

i had a friend in college we met my junior year and she was actually the one to send my writing to the College Arts and culture magazine and idk how this happeend but we were just competitive ......

my mom is pretty cold so i think i responded well to her cold and critisizing behavior but then i started doign my own thing and she freaked out when i moved to new york (2019) and like i was dependent on her and would spiral out and make her listen whcih was probs annoying for her... i was super negative and unhealed...

but basically i then moved to la and got a bf this was during COVID so she said something kind of mean (i was risking lives for a dick appointment) but it was during COVID so you can cancel me toooo i ended up dating him for 2 years and i was like should a friend say this to me? and then i was like she's been pretty mean to me... and i think i started to drift and so did she

and then we stopped talking and at first i was hurt then i was like whatever and now im like yea we werent good for each other so it's best this way but yea it was fun to change things up in college